Tale of pink sea sails

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CHARTERED ACCOUNTANT STUDENT !!!

DANCER , MUSIC AND FASHION LOVER & OCCASIONALLY A  BADMINTON PLAYER. LOVE TO READ NOVELS (ESPECIALLY FICTION) , ANCHORING AND OF COURSE BLOGGING :)


I'm a girl sailing away in search of tomorrow on every shore with girly pink sails learning to develop problem solving skills, battling crazy uncontrollable winds & rough waves .People might laugh at my pink sails but I'm determined to make it stylish and girly. They might treat me just like a book . If the cover doesn't catch the eyes they might refuse to read what is inside me but I refuse to be anchored at the harbour. Adventure and exploring are what I need. It's called the tale of pink sea sails. 


Friday, 11 December 2015

TALE OF PINK SEA SAILS !!!:  BEING ASSERTIVE1) Do you walk around with     'I...

TALE OF PINK SEA SAILS !!!:  BEING ASSERTIVE
1) Do you walk around with     'I...
:   BEING ASSERTIVE 1)  Do you walk around with       'I don't bend for anyone!' or      'I don't give a damn !...

 BEING ASSERTIVE


1)  Do you walk around with 
     'I don't bend for anyone!' or
     'I don't give a damn ! ' or 
     'I don't care' or
      'I don't mingle' 
      attitude . 
2)You think you are straight forward but do you realize that sometimes you are way too offensive.
3) Do you explode with anger or raise your voice when things are not the way you want them to be ?
4) Are you nervous or afraid when you have a date or a social event ?
5) Are you able to express your feelings openly or do u just get moody and take it on everyone around you at your workplace or classroom.
6) Are you nice to the people who are nice to you or do you just take them for granted ?

 If any of the above applies to you it suggests you are not being assertive. Assertiveness focuses on allowing you to be yourself but not getting your own way at any cost or at the cost of others. It is being positive and confident about yourselves when expressing ideas,opinions and facts.

For example
Consider yourself standing in line for a movie ticket outside the cinema hall. Somebody bypassed you. What would you do ?
1) Keep your mouth shut and do nothing. 
2) Yell at the person in front of everyone. 
3) Politely tell the person " Excuse me sir/ma'am there is a que. Please follow the line "
If you choose option 3 you know you are being assertive.

Communication verbal or non-verbal is an integral part of day to day life. Assertiveness helps to improve communication skills thus improving relationships and friendships. When you are assertive you will also be able to handle downfalls and hurt feelings and influences. When it's a 'NO' you should be able to say 'NO' in a polite manner without being guilty about it. 

Consider another example.
A group of friends text you and ask you to join them for lunch and you don't want to go. How would you reply ?
1) Force yourself to say 'yes' and go anyways.
2) Don't reply to the text message at all or reply 'NOPE' . 
3) Say " I would love to join you but guys I am a bit preoccupied today. Will definitely join you some other time. "

Once again if you choose option 3 you have been assertive.

Simple complications , miscommunication have led to misunderstandings and break ups. Why always wait for another person to make the first move ? Why can’t you make an attempt to keep in touch ? You don’t have to be a slave to someone but at the same time you don’t have to hurt another to satisfy your own ego. Being assertive includes being a good listener, communicating clearly, being able to stand up for yourself, able to say yes/no when you need to and above all accepting people the way they are. 

Assertiveness can not only help build interpersonal relationships but it can improve your individual image and contribute to the growth of the society as a whole.


Be fearless , Be honest , Be generous , Be brave , Be poetic , Be open , Be free , Be yourself , Be in love , Be happy , Be inspiration.  -BEYONCE








Tuesday, 14 July 2015

TALE OF PINK SEA SAILS !!!: SHE CALLS HERSELF A 'FEMINIST' !!!You heard her cr...

TALE OF PINK SEA SAILS !!!: SHE CALLS HERSELF A 'FEMINIST' !!!You heard her cr...: SHE CALLS HERSELF A 'FEMINIST' !!! You heard her cry ? You heard her scream ? Why did you ignore it then ? Is it because she is ...

SHE CALLS HERSELF A 'FEMINIST' !!!

You heard her cry ?You heard her scream ?Why did you ignore it then ?Is it because she is not your mother, your sister or your friend ?

You hear a lot of talk these days about how a woman's worst enemy is always another woman.True. Nobody has commented on my clothes as much as a woman has. Nobody has stolen my ideas and creative thinking as much as a woman has. In the end the same woman calls herself  a 'feminist'.

We live in a society where a rape victim or a victim of sexual harassment is not even treated like a normal human being. The sad part is support is denied from other women around them who use the victim's problems as weapons to pull her down.

Feminism is not the quality of hating men or talking about women empowerment. It is the ability to stand up for another woman like you or not to get a man henpecked to ruin another woman's life. If 'good or bad' does not depend on caste, creed and race it does not depend on gender either. We are all born with good and evil built in us. It all depends on which part we choose to act upon.

Women ! If you cannot respect your own kind do not expect respect from another kind. Others will be comfortable with us if we are comfortable with ourselves. We women need to know the worth of other women as much as we know our own. 

Being a feminist isn't scary or disgusting. It isn't a negative quality. Of course you have to be a feminist if you want to be a strong woman or a woman successful as any other man. because feminism is the quality of fighting for equal rights and opportunities in political, economic, social and cultural fields.


" A FEMINIST IS ANYONE WHO RECOGNIZES THE EQUALITY AND FULL HUMANITY OF WOMEN AND MEN . " -  GLORIA STEINEM








Friday, 26 June 2015

TALE OF PINK SEA SAILS !!!: BEHIND THE SCENESA well known Chinese proverb says...

TALE OF PINK SEA SAILS !!!: BEHIND THE SCENESA well known Chinese proverb says...: BEHIND THE SCENES A well known Chinese proverb says "If you don't want anyone to find out then don't do it" . Sometime...

BEHIND THE SCENES

A well known Chinese proverb says "If you don't want anyone to find out then don't do it" . Sometimes  you are not sorry that you did it but you are sorry that I found out.

Every time you watch a play on stage or a movie on big screen have you ever wondered what that might be like behind the scenes ?
Naturally, the movie on screen is totally different from the movie 'behind the scenes'.

Similar to something what we face in real life. You have frenemies , you have people saying things about you behind your back, 'so called friends' who betray you in every possible way. For a straight forward person to see how fake people are can end up being a pure pain.

Not every person who smiles at you or shakes hands with you is your friend. Not every person who accepts your friend request on facebook is your friend.
Liking someone is not as easy as hitting the 'like button' on facebook or quitting a group of friends who have betrayed you is not as easy as quitting a whatsapp group.  Not many of us have the ability to say 'NO' or accept a 'NO' from another person. We live in a world where we cannot be just ourselves.

When you are fake you are like the two faces of the same coin. When you are tossed people notice which side you show up. As the saying goes , " It's only during the bad phase of your life you realize who your real friends are " . So true right ? A bad phase is a point of time when your life seems interesting to everybody else except you. The greatest task is your ability  to include the person who is deserted , lonely and completely excluded. 

90% of the people are not friends with the people whom they once called their best friends either because one of them has played on the other or they are just uptight fakers. It's always towards the end we tell a person , " you have not seen the other side of me "or " I have changed ? The truth is you never knew me very well " .

As a blogger I don't know how many will read this and try to bring about a change or how many will stand up for the truth when there is something wrong happening right in front of their eyes or how many will read this and use it against the author herself ! 
I don't know . How can I ? After all it happens "Behind the Scenes ! "



 

Friday, 29 May 2015

TALE OF PINK SEA SAILS !!!:    AM I BEAUTIFUL ?!DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THE CURVE ...

TALE OF PINK SEA SAILS !!!:    AM I BEAUTIFUL ?!
DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THE CURVE ...
:     AM I BEAUTIFUL ?! DO NOT WORRY  ABOUT THE CURVE OF YOUR HIP WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL IS YOUR SMILE - THE CURVE OF YOUR LIP ...

   AM I BEAUTIFUL ?!


DO NOT WORRY 
ABOUT THE CURVE OF YOUR HIP
WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL
IS YOUR SMILE - THE CURVE OF YOUR LIP !

DO NOT WORRY
ABOUT WHAT YOU WEAR OR THE WAY YOU COMB YOU HAIR
WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL
IS HOW MUCH YOU CARE !

DO NOT WORRY
ABOUT THE SKIN AND EYE COLOR
WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL
IS YOU BEING IN CHEERFUL COLOR !

DO NOT WORRY 
ABOUT WHO WILL STAND UP FOR 'YOU'
WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL
IS YOUR STRENGTH TO STAND UP FOR 'YOU ' !

DO NOT WORRY 
ABOUT HOW PERFECT YOU ARE
WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL
IS ACCEPTING YOURSELF AS YOU ARE !

DO NOT WORRY
ABOUT THE NUMBER OF FRIENDS IN THIS WORLD
WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL
IS 'YOU ARE A GIFT TO THE WORLD' !